How did your wife first react when you told her about this fantasy? I spoke with my wife just last week and she was a little bit freaked. I'm trying to reassure her I'm not trying this as a ploy to sleep with other women, no I'm not bisexual or a cuckold, yes I love and respect her etc etc but not sure she's out of shock mode yet to listen to me.
It took about 2 years of fantasy play but my wife finally decided to take a plunge. The first time I watched her with another guy I came faster than I usually do when we have sex (I can last 2 minutes on a good day). Watching her take his enormous tool and gasp and scream was something else. I lost count of her orgasms and now there is no stopping her. She is getting more uninhibited with each new guy. Good luck, love your blog!
FYI - i also was adamant about being present but let me just tell you - i let her go meet a guy for what was supposed to be a little pre-session (a BJ) to whet his beak until the main session a few nights later. so she got all business slutty dressed up and split to her office which is just hers and they met and it was hella hot!! they stuck to the bj but at the end they were so hot they had sex. i only let her go alone on the condition that she learn and use the video camera which she did.
My lady took some convincing but did it for me. But now loves it and can’t get enough of different guys it seems. I am no cuck but my wife really likes to head this way. She has had a couple of away ones but likes me there. Thats when she will try take control and devote a lot of time to the other guy. She likes to see me squirm but then makes it up to me. Its a case I think of women using her power to control the situation.
My wife and I divorced 5 years ago. We have both remarried new partners. My new wife was a friend of my first wife. We all get on well. About 6 months ago we swapped partners and it went well. For me it was fantastic to slip into my first wife after about 4 years absence. Sex was never the problem with the first marriage and I think if we had swapped or shared with others then we would still be together. No complaining though, my new wife is super hot as well.
On Monday nights I pick up my wife from her lovers hotel. They have dinner and drinks so she can’t drive and would have to stay there all night. He’s her old boss where she worked before and has been doing her for years. He stays in town one night a week. I know him but don’t go in. She is always very happy when she gets in the car and ready for more then but mostly I make her wait until we are home. I don’t see a problem with it, she seems to need it and I never miss out.
Having wrote "the waiting is tough", just want you to know I hope you get what you want too. The point I was trying to make is sometimes no matter how much we "wish" and plan out steps, she will never do it. Or my case after twice refuse more. To another point I was trying to make is once you see your wife with another and you realize that you do indeed like it you soon know that once or twice is not enough. Compatibility becomes the key. Frustrated I now look for "something" to hang my hat on.
I recommend you stick to your guns on you being present. She knows your fantasy as a MFM or at least you as an observer. It may send confusing messages if you change now. From where I sit you have an amazingly good thing with the role play games. For most of us we wont even have that. You have too much to lose to risk letting even encouraging her to fuck without you. Just my uneducated opinion FWIW. I hope you get what you want and the aftermath is what you want too.
Why restrict either a man or woman to one partner. If the relationship is strong it is natural that you both want the other to enjoy life and different experiences. We had done that for years. If my wife or me sees someone either wants to have then do it. We had one now friend who has been fucking my wife for 10 years. We probably on see him 3 times a year. But when we do its usually a couple of days and its full on. He knows what he is going to get, she knows and I know and we all enjoy it.
We both love this. We now have a friend Rick, he owns a stretch limo service. We met when we hired him once. Some nights he picks us up. She wears a light coat and heels. I drive and he’s in the back. He licks her, she sucks him and then he fucks her. I watch in the mirror and on the camera. Then we swap and he drives. I clean her up and fuck her, then home. She walks from the car inside only wearing heels. He usually leaves then. We see him often for more but love the car ride.
About “The waiting is tough”. Getting her to have sex with someone else alone is a natural and common progression. It went that way for us. I thought watching Carla with another man would be the ultimate but then my wants changed and she was also ok to move up a gear. She now has had a threesome with 2 guys and not me. I was really charged waiting for her return and what she told me. Our sex after was magic. She comes home after that and wants me more, thats my Carla.