Asking for Help Does Not Mean Admitting Defeat

Now that I’m in my late 20’s, I’ve had multiple experiences that have taught and retaught me the above statement – much more than I can remember. Whether it’s with work, your personal life, or when you need someone to help you carry your 45 lb suitcase down 5 flights of stairs, asking for help is more than a good idea – it’s necessary. We are led to believe that we can be fearless, strong and independent in this world, and that is certainly true. But those who are smart aren’t afraid to ask for help along the way.

I’ve found that when I don’t ask for help when I really do need it, I feel like I’m flayling around without any sense of where or when I can stop. I’m taking guesses rather than making informed decisions. I’m relying on my emotions (or perhaps my exhaustion level) rather than my experience or know-how.

Here are a few hints you should be asking for help when you’re just not sure…

You’re about to make an assumption - No need to assume anything. Whether you ASSUME someone doesn’t like you, or you ASSUME something is due by end of week… just ask the right person who would actually know. No harm in it.

You’ve tried your first instinct reaction and it didn’t work – You gave it your best shot. Before you waste anymore time on the issue, explain to someone what you tried to accomplish, and ask if they have another opinion on the matter.

There are others involved and you need to be right the first time – This is especially true in work. If there is a big group project and others are depending on you, this is NOT the time to be a hero and try to accomplish it all alone. Lean on others who have been there before or team mates who can help

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