There was a lot that I enjoyed about The Happiness Project, but there were also times when I couldn’t quite connect with Gretchen; this actually intrigued me more than if I’d felt perfectly akin to her, though. It was interesting to read one woman’s perspective of her journey to “change her life without changing her life”, but it was even more interesting to read the perspective of a woman who has traits that are in many ways the polar opposite of my own. As much as Rubin cites statistics throughout the book (a habit done to a degree that I recognized it as a characteristic quirk), one of the things I noticed about The Happiness Project is that it offers itself as a study of individuality, as well. It was an unexpected aspect, but I enjoyed it. In some ways it proved to me the elusiveness of happiness: not only is it a struggle in life to achieve happiness, but we must find our unique brand of happiness first; of everything I took away from the book, I think that was my favorite.
In many ways, The Happiness Project is a book about the author’s flaws. Many of Rubin’s resolutions revolve around behaviors that are ultimately blocking her happiness. She paints herself in the form of a nagging wife, an occasionally pushy friend, an exasperated mother; as argumentative and self-concerned in social settings. In essence, she shows herself to the reader in what amounts to being not the very best light. Throughout the book it struck me as an incredibly brave thing to do, and I really came to admire her by the final page. The phenomenal research she put into the book take her narrative into a deep, detailed place – I enjoyed the many quotations of famous thinkers and spiritual leaders on happiness – and the result is a book that has unexpected layers. I think The Happiness Project has a way of going beyond its premise with its unique offerings, making it one of those books that will truly have a different effect on everyone who reads it.