The Single Girl Diaries: Two Halves DON'T Always Make a Whole

So instead of waiting until the very end of this here post to give you the punch line I am just going to start off with it and hope it catches your attention enough to read further. mmk?
"Two broke people don't heal each other."
We've been in a series on family at our church and this quote is from my pastor. It seems so obvious to an outsider, but when you're the one who's broken it's always easier to try to find someone who you hope will "fix you"rather than doing the hard work of fixing yourself.
When a relationship ends, whether it be our doing or theirs, we rarely feel like dancing around in our undaroos to "All the Single Ladies." We would much prefer to wallow while watching a marathon of Friends and downing a pint of Ben and Jerry's.
Regardless of why a relationship ended there is alway something to fix. {:No, not him. There is OBVIOUSLY many things he needs to fix if he let you go, but this post isn't about him. It's about you!:} You were a part of that relationship and now that it has ended, whether it was last night or last year, it's time to start looking at yourself and the areas you may be broken in. But it's so much more fun to look at the other person and name a laundry list of ways their broken and how they could improve before getting in their next relationship, right? Tis true...but the only way to make ourselves better and more prepared for our next relationships it to look at the one in the mirror. {:I'm starting with the (wo)man in the mirror…..okay enough with the random break outs in song. I just can't help myself:}
So here's the deal. If you are reading this post I am guessing you are not the girl who loves serial dating, but are the type of girl who actually wishes she could just skip this whole dating thing and go straight to the wedding. {:Yea, well take a number.:} But…since that isn't really an option the best thing we can do for our next relationship and ourselves is to try and heal our areas of brokeness.
When two broken people enter into a relationship, most of the time they are looking for that other person to be the answer to everything that they thought was wrong in their singleness. Relationships are often doomed to fail when one person enters the relationship this way, but when two do, honestly, they normally remain together. They stay together because neither of them believe that they can actually be whole apart from them. But, their relationship will never truly be full unless they choose to heal and fix themselves.
So for right now you do you. You figure out how to make yourself whole and when the right guy comes along and sees "you doing you," you'll be ready.