Making adjustments

When Lane and I first started living together it took me some time to adjust to his way of doing things. At first I cringed when he did laundry. I couldn't understand why he hated shopping so much. And why did he always procrastinate when it came to doing yard work or cleaning the basement?
While I was making adjustments so was he. I'm a micro manager and he had a difficult time coming to terms with that. When I want something done I mean now and not later. That was an adjustment Lane chose to make on an as needed basis.
In the end, we both figured out how to adjust to make our marriage work and not drive ourselves or each other crazy.
Life as a widow calls for many adjustments. At first, it is trying to adjust to the sadness, guilt and anger that we feel. After awhile we adjust to our new role as "Chief of Everything" - parent, banker, handyman, landscaper, etc. Adjusting to the "new normal" takes years. It is a very long and rocky road to make the adjustment to being on our own.
We never, however, really adjust to the loss of our husbands. We do get used to so much more than we had imagined in the first weeks and months of his death. We learn how to adjust to taking care of our home, cars, kids and businesses on our own. We adjust to friends deserting us and people avoiding us. But we never adjust to not seeing him or feeling his touch.
Personally, even after 7 years of being a widow, I have not adjusted to sleeping alone.
Since your husband died, what have adjusted to or what have you not adjusted to?
Sue