a skinny bitch...fest | feeling beautiful

Since when is a size 12 considered 'normal'.... a size 12 is too obese and men don't like fat women. So you should probably stop eating cheeseburgers because you're too fat!

I'm sure... reading just that statement makes you a little pissed off and ready to attack me... right?
It's not something I think. It's not something I would ever say, except right now, while trying to make a point. I thought about erasing it and going a different route, but opted for the shock factor.

Lets just switch some words around:

Since when is a size 0 considered 'normal' or a size... size 0/1 is too skinny and men like women with curves. So you should probably eat a cheeseburger or something because you're too skinny

When the CEO of A&F came out with his ludicrous statement awhile back... Ellen DeGeneres made the statement "Since when is the number 0 a size?"

I see all these ads now, with "healthy" women who wear a size 8 . This is great!!! What is not great: All these other women shouting from the rooftops how this is what REAL women look like. This is what women SHOULD look like. Men like women with curves. You need curves to be sexy. You are not a woman unless men find you sexy.

I can not count how many times I've been told to eat a cheeseburger because I'm too skinny. I have actually overheard women, grown women, whisper in passing that my kids were not mine... I was the nanny... or aunt... or adopted mom. Grown women making comments about the fact that I am too skinny and how gross it is. Grown-up mean-girls- putting me down for how I look. Rumors of eating disorders and drug use.

For the record. I am healthy! I doooo eat cheeseburgers, and cheesecake, and chocolate, and ice cream. I have birthed 3 kids AND a size 0 is a size when the size 1 does not fit! Don't judge me! I can not change my genetics. Who gives you the right to judge that I am too skinny. Who says you can determine what is too skinny and too fat? Who are you to tell anyone what size is "healthy". Who are you to tell me what I should and shouldn't look like... that I am not beautiful because of my weight and pant size? That I am not good enough, not curvy enough and not sexy enough.

I do not stand tall. I do not feel confident in my own skin. Because you have told me not to. You have told me that I am not good enough.
I am not beautiful enough. My body doesn't look the way it should. I'm not curvy enough. My pant size isn't normal. Men don't find me sexy. You have filled my head with this. You are the reason I do not feel beautiful.
You. Not the ads, or commercials. You.
Friends, family members, strangers.
Women.
Just the other day a friend posted a full length selfie. Most comments were about how great she looked (and she did!), but one comment stood out. It was a comment about how good she looked, but to be careful not to get too skinny, because men like those curves.

Yesterday, I posted a #TBT (old) picture of myself, noting how much I miss my pre-children boobs... to which a family member commented about how small they were to begin with, and "who knew they'd ever be held in such high regard". Ouch.

It's everywhere. "Embrace your curves" when it should be "Embrace your body".
I don't know why we, as women, have to bash one another. Why are we always bringing each other down? When will we learn to embrace one another and our differences? Build one another up?
It's a world I dream of for Adelyn. A world where she not only knows she's beautiful... but feels it. A world where she isn't forced to read the words of hate, degrading her body.
Tearing apart her self-esteem and, therefore, self-worth.


**I wrote this post awhile ago and finally got enough balls to edit it a little bit and click publish. Be kind with your words.