. Berry’s Intriguing Questions Meme .
Well, before I start, I must warn you, I love writing, so… I may write a lot!
1. How do you deal with criticism?
Very good, actually. Both in RL and SL. It doesn’t matter if it’s what we call “positive” criticism or “negative”. Somewhere, I can always feel what’s the part of the critique is meant for me and what part actually belongs to the critic. All criticism is a two way road: there are, at least, two people involved. Parts of it belong to the critic, other parts belong to who is being criticized. If I take a critique “negatively”, I always ask myself – in which part of me is this touching, in what wound? Many times, I find out it’s the ego. So, I just drop it. All criticism is very welcome for me; I always learn a lot about myself, just by evaluating my own reactions to it. When people are rude to me, in a criticism, that rudeness is theirs, it doesn’t belong to me. Not worth it to even answer back.
2. What’s the most infuriating thing other SL residents do?
The exact same things people do in RL: to lie, to mislead, to manipulate. Easier maybe in a virtual environment, since people don’t really have to do eye contact and can sit comfortably thinking ” I can do or say what I want, because this is a game”. No, SL is much more than a game! Playing with people’s emotions in SL really infuriates me! I’m talking about romantic emotions; that’s why I’m the eternal single woman in SL. Men’s approaches are only laughable (sorry about that guys!). You know those IMs: “Oh you are gorgeous! You are so beautiful!” and I’m like “I know, right?”… and sudddenly the conversations stops there… any ideas why? *laughs*
3. Which SL resident would you most like to have lunch with and why?
Actually, I’d love to not only have lunch with, but go on a cruise with my AVENUE team *laughs* That would be something!
4 . Who would you say is your “anti” role model? Someone who serves as a warning rather than an inspiration?
I really don’t know. I could name some people, but just like in RL, there is always something about those people that teach me something. Just by them being “anti” role model, I’m already learning. So, let them come *smiles* . Bottom line is… in SL, we never know who is who… so they don’t know who I am in RL. And that is extremely interesting “Anti” role models work as a true inpiration for me; because they exist, I’m more alert, more aware, more observant. They bring out some of the best parts of me.
5. What was something you used to enjoy, but was ruined for you?
Absolutely nothing! I don’t give others the power to ruin something for me.
6. What’s something you want to do that you’d be embarrassed to tell other people about?
No idea, really!
7. What’s the oddest term of endearment you’ve ever used or that someone’s used for you?
“Mexilhão”… well, I have to explain this *laughs* this is a portuguese word for .. a clam, I think. Only one person called me that as a term of endearment and really… to have somebody shout out loud “clam” that’s sweet, right? *laughs* I knew, right away, she was around and she had seen me, even in a very crowded place.
8. Have you ever fallen in love with another SL resident?
No, never. I’ve had one or two crushes, which is completely different from falling in love. The most important crush I had lasted a couple of months and it was back in 2009, I guess it started by the end of 2008; the person is no longer in SL. But well, I have to say that I don’t buy this “romatic love” thing in SL. I admit that people may fall in love, yes, but it has never happened to me. I’m definitely too sad and disappointed about people lying about their RL gender, pretending to be male, when they are female in RL and vice-versa. I mean, it’s okay to do this, I see no problem there. What is not okay is to engage in a romatic relationship in SL (which eventually leads to nowhere), and lie to their “loved ones” for a long period of time about their real gender. “Loved ones” … I mean, if you really love somebody – SL or RL – the best thing to do is to lie to them, right? What a way to “love” somebody. I’m sorry to say but this is sick! Only a very sick person does this! And I’ve met a few actually. Then, we have the cheaters… “love stories” that end because, go figure, in a particular week, one member of the couple can’t be inworld, for several reasons; what does the other do? Well, let’s try some “pose balls” with somebody else. “Why did this happen? Why did you cheat on me?” “Because you weren’t here, and this other girl was very persuasive”… and I’m like … are these people for real? Sometimes I wonder why in almost six years in SL, I have never been approached for a “more serious” relationship. Some of my friends say I’m intimidating *smiles* and I take that as a compliment, of course. But I don’t think that’s the real reason. I think it’s really me not being open to SL relationships. I really don’t think “SL love” is possible, unless it’s taken to RL.
9. Describe a time/event in your slife that you’re nostalgic for.
Maybe the times when LL had the grid protected against criminals, copybotters and crackers? Yes, those times were better.
10. What’s something sweet you’d like someone to do for you?
Oh I’ve been lucky enough to have people doing the sweetest things for me. You know, I’m a loner in SL; I spend lots of time on my own, exploring, trying to build (which is definitely not my thing… yet *laughs*), visiting new sims, finding those cute little stores that nobody knows about? And while I’m just there, inworld, alone, I find something interesting, IM the creator or the designer just telling them how much I have enjoyed what I’ve seen in their store or done in their sims and to have, for example, a designer send you his or her entire collection, just because of my kind words, that’s … I don’t know… it’s priceless. For starters, because my intention is to really tell the person they have made my slife better , they could just thank me… but wow, there are really amazing people in SL.
I told you I write a lot *smiles*
Thank you Berry, for this Meme.
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Dress: Chrystal Reality (includes a beautiful crown, necklace and earrings) – I’m wearing the very basic version of the dress.
Photo with little PS editting, taken at Mad City – definitely worth a visit, what an outstanding place!
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