Why military wives have a right to complain
Yesterday I had a major case of the winter blues. We got about three inches of snow in the afternoon, my kids were bored and cranky, my plans all had to be cancelled, and it took a couple hours for this warm weather loving, Southern California native to pull it together and remember to be grateful for my life instead of grumpy about my circumstances.
I started thinking about the saying, "Never complain about things that you cannot change".
That's supposed to be our military wife mantra, right? You don't like where you're stationed? Don't complain. You can't change it. You don't like that you're husband is deploying or being shipped off TDY or something? Don't complain. You cant change it. You don't like moving every couple years? Don't complain. You can't change it. You don't like the 12 hour days, the cost your family pays, the loneliness, the constant change, the lack of security? Don't complain. You can't change it.
Why isn't the saying, "You can occasionally complain about the things you cannot change. Don't complain about the things you can change unless you're being proactive in making those changes".
I believe, as military wives, we DO have a right to complain occasionally. We have no control over our lives and that leads us to be stuck in situations that we don't like sometimes. That situation might be where we live, how far we are from family, the lifestyle that the current command provides, etc. We don't get a say in most aspects of our lives because we are choosing to stay married to someone who has dedicated their life to serving the country.
So, fellow military wives, I implore you to support and encourage each other in a complaint every once in a while. We're usually not able to change our circumstances. Sometimes we just need to whine a little.
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I started thinking about the saying, "Never complain about things that you cannot change".
That's supposed to be our military wife mantra, right? You don't like where you're stationed? Don't complain. You can't change it. You don't like that you're husband is deploying or being shipped off TDY or something? Don't complain. You cant change it. You don't like moving every couple years? Don't complain. You can't change it. You don't like the 12 hour days, the cost your family pays, the loneliness, the constant change, the lack of security? Don't complain. You can't change it.
Why isn't the saying, "You can occasionally complain about the things you cannot change. Don't complain about the things you can change unless you're being proactive in making those changes".
I believe, as military wives, we DO have a right to complain occasionally. We have no control over our lives and that leads us to be stuck in situations that we don't like sometimes. That situation might be where we live, how far we are from family, the lifestyle that the current command provides, etc. We don't get a say in most aspects of our lives because we are choosing to stay married to someone who has dedicated their life to serving the country.
So, fellow military wives, I implore you to support and encourage each other in a complaint every once in a while. We're usually not able to change our circumstances. Sometimes we just need to whine a little.
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