“I’m just trusting the process,” someone says–and maybe “someone” was you, recently. So how do we know when that’s true–when you’re trusting the ...
Had a clairvoyant from the future been able to guarantee, in no uncertain terms, one vision from the future, my younger self would have wanted to know this, and only this: that she would make it. As ...
I know how the story goes. I’ve lived it. When I finally have more clients, I’ll stop feeling so insecure about my business. If this launch goes well, I’ll know that it means I should keep doing this...
To “purge” is to release a lot in one deluge, one fell swoop. If you’re purging, you aren’t picking and choosing one little brick at a time–you’re declaring that a complete overhaul is in order...
Perhaps you’re new to the online world–so let me introduce you to Chris Guillebeau, who’s known for writing The Art of Non-Conformity blog as well as a book by the same title. He...
* I’ll be making a printable PDF of this available after May 15, 2012, for my e-letter subscribers. 1.) Start meditating–yes, daily. This is how you tap into that which is divine, within ...
First, a quick note on what constitutes a “mistake.” There are those who say that mistakes are mistakes–you done wrong. Period. Then there’s the camp that says there is no such thing as a mista...
It was the late 2007 when I had my first aspirations of turning what I was doing with coaching into a full-time practice. I’m going to buck the trend, here, and be honest–I did everything...
I know, I know–it’s a crippling question: “Just who the hell do you think you are?” The inner critic, feeling insecure and nervous and afraid, will dish that up, often at unexpected moments, mo...
Boundaries are about love–this is something to take care not to overlook, especially for those people who know that their version of boundaries has been to put up an ice wall tough enough to wi...
“You gotta put on your teflon,” Matthew, my coach/guru would say to me, sometimes. What he meant was that when someone in front of me was spinning, venting, angry, taking their shit out on me, the mo...
“Boundaries are like drawing a line in the sand and saying, ‘Beyond here I will not go and you cannot come.’ ” –Iyanla VanZant Here’s a revolutionary thought: other peop...
In my life as an English professor, this was a common scenario: A student enters my class with some serious, or repetitive, grammatical issues. Whatever the issue was, I’d encourage them to work on i...
Laurie Wagner goes deep. She’s not afraid to make eye contact. She’s not only fearless around hearing your truth, she’s going to help you cultivate it. This video interview is just ...
I’m pretty big on taking personal responsibility. Some people in life have trouble apologizing–if I see that I’ve done wrong, I’m happy to apologize. Step right up, Swoboda is here, and she’s r...
“Diets don’t work.” When research was published in the early 2000’s that came to this essential conclusion, I imagine that it landed something like a thud in many a dieter’s mind: You mean…I’ve...
You already know that I’m not a big fan of expectations. They’re limiting in a multitude of ways, and are a fertile ground for breeding Stories about what it did or did not mean when the expectations...
(click the image for the photo credit) Here’s a question: What are you doing in those moments when you most want to run? And is the choice you’re making helping you to feel more al...
At your core, your essence, you are indestructible. There is nothing that anyone could ever do to you or take from what is really you. No one could possibly damage that intimate, untouchable spirit w...
my favorite photo ever of my man and me Seven years ago, I would have told you: –that if it’s “meant to be,” it’s easy; –that it would be unimaginable to think of hurting one anoth...
A few years ago, I was involved in a circle of friends that shifted, suddenly and (for me) without warning. It took me awhile to understand my role in that shift, but once I did, I was filled with a ...
When I was in the fifth grade, the science teacher showed us a video about parasites. The video showed how an innocent little snail moving along the limb of a tree unknowingly ate a parasite, and pro...
For several years, people had told me that The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle was one of those books that “waited for” the person to be ready to read it. When the time was right, they said, you would ...
Someone approached me about helping her with strategy to develop her business. She was working in a non-coaching, non-personal growth field, one that I had only a little experience in–but she l...
It’s the tight pull of tension as you suck your breath in, near the diaphragm–someone has just handed you something else that you need to do. More on the list. Or perhaps you just realize...
photo credit: Andrea Scher An Interview with Brene Brown Brene Brown and I got together for our first interview for The Courageous Living Guide, over a year ago. The Gifts of Imperfection had been re...
“There’s no secret to it. It’s just a lot of years of getting up, putting on the shoes and getting out the door on those days when it doesn’t feel good and when it’s not all that fun and still puttin...
I’m one of those people who can tell you exactly what happened, play by play, in an intense discussion that I had with someone years before. I can usually tell you what I said, what he said, how he l...
So Kate–what exactly did you, uh, do? Truth? I did a whole lot of “nothing”–bu t I made it into “structured” nothing. The structure that I created took far l...
So. Yeah. The tacit implication that when you’re running a business online, you’re supposed to put up a rosy-cheeked front? I’m not great at that. (That’s okay with me....
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