There is a widespread belief in Western culture that it is necessary to police the health of every fat person. Judgments are made about the state of the inside of fat bodies based on the appearance o...
Sex and the Fat Girl is doing a ticket giveaway to Erica Watson’s “Fat Bitch!” show in Los Angeles on April 29, 30 and May 1st. It’s also up on Bitch Magazine’s site. Go...
Hey all, just letting you know I’m doing a new feature on my new blog, Sex and the Fat Girl, in which you can ask me questions anonymously. Go check it out! Tell Me Your Secrets and I’ll ...
Thank you to everyone who donated. I’m working on getting the thank you cards out and I’m going to e-mail everyone who donated in the next day or so to let y’all know I’m grat...
It’s a common belief that there’s someone out there just for you, and when you find him or her, you’ll find the person that makes you whole. I held that belief my entire life, and I searched fruitles...
Okay, I know I said I was going to start posting again, but I’ve been so caught up in not having money and waiting for Congress to hurry up and pass the unemployment extension so I can pay bill...
Recently a new sex partner asked for my advice on how to deal with three women he was “seeing,” each of whom was interested in having a monogamous relationship with him. Being as how we had just had ...
It’s been over a month since I posted anything, much less an actual original post meant specifically for this blog. My life has been complete drama for that period of time (hell, it still is) s...
Interestingly enough, I was about to do a recap of the November issue of Marie Claire, which is one of my favorite fashion rags and home of the only column dedicated to fat fashion (however plain and...
It’s high time we as Black people learn to collectively embrace a sex-positive worldview. What do I mean by sex-positive? Sex-positivity equals acceptance of differing sexual orientations, acceptance...
Thick, curvy, voluptuous—nah. I’m a proud fat Black chick with no hangups about my size, and I have the nerve to expect a romantic interest to be comfortable with it. I learned a long time ago that I...
The time has come for me to wrap up my gig blogging about representations of fat in pop culture at Bitch Magazine, and I find myself reflecting on what I personally am taking away from the series. I ...
To the left is my next wig purchase. She’s called “British Candy” and I got her in a HL4/33. Yes, it’s a white chick wearing her but for some reason, it was in the “Afri...
Every year or so I get tired of dealing with my hair and want to either get braids or hide it under a wig. Last year it was kinky twists that lasted about a day before my hair drew up and made them l...
The awesome site/org Zora & Alice are holding their first event! Check out the flyer for more details: All y’all New York peeps should go check it out if you can! Now back to your regularl...
I’ll write a longer post in a bit about my experiences at the conference and my unending gratitude to all who got me there financially and who attended my workshop, but I wanted to hurry and ge...
First off, thanks to all of you that donated! I really appreciate it. It helps tremendously in that I will be able to eat and stay under a roof while I attend the conference. I’m getting excite...
There are a few things I find funny about the way people think about “mulattoes”, which for our purposes will be defined in the classical way: a person of white and black parentage. One i...
Hey y’all, So as some of you know, I’m attending the Femme Conference in Oakland on the 20th through the 22nd. I’m scheduled to do a workshop for mentally ill/psychiatrically disabl...
My “day job”, as it were, is seriously stifling my creativity. I spend all day doing things that are antithetical to creative thought. Filing, answering phones, fetching coffee. Not exact...
On my little vacation from blogging daily while I was over at Feministe, I spent a lot of time and some money redecorating and refurnishing my room. I got curtains for my closet (I removed the doors ...
Well, Andrew Breitbart, smearing Shirley Sherrod in order to refute the NAACP’s resolution against “racist elements” in the Tea Party turned out to be a pretty bad idea. Yes, you co...
Tonight I did something I do less and less of these days — I came home and didn’t jump on the Internet. Didn’t rush through my meal to hurry up and check my e-mail only to be inunda...
[Cross-posted from Feministe] Fox News dropped this bombshell in the early hours of July 20 (or the late night of July 19, as it is for me). Apparently someone was able to dig up a video of a black U...
Why I continue to follow links relating to the Tea Party and whatever problematic tripe they’re spewing on that particular day, I don’t know. I only have a certain amount of anxiety medic...
In working on the anthology I’m editing/contributing to, Occupied Bodies: Women of Color Speak on Self-Image, an issue has come up over whether or not I should include a particular independent ...
The ongoing quest of the French government to preserve their country’s “secular traditions” came to the fore once again Tuesday when the lower house of France’s parliament vot...
This “family feud” has been mentioned in blog post after blog post, so I’ll keep the history short. Big “feminist” site Jezebel posts about female comedy writers not bei...
Okay, I’ve abandoned the “post every day” thing I had going because my life became completely crazy. I was still writing, just not blog posts. This weekend I finally got to exhale s...
These days it seems like things are going back to the way they were in the good old days, only with a few tweaks. You’ve got proud racists, anti-abortion “feminists”, and now it loo...
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