And beyond just telling us the who, where, what and how of her life, shes extremely revealing about her process. Not just some of the deepest parts of her personality (as Kate says in the book, "...
Hi Bevin, So I am not sure if you put your email up on your website so that people could ask you for love advice, but I am going to try anyways! So here is the situation -- I am a girl who is in my e...
As a Femme it can be really hard to play the hanky game. I used to use my bra strap sometimes, like tuck a hot pink hanky in the back so it flapped around, letting everyone know I was both into a cer...
So, you see, dear readers, I am at yet another begin again crossroads. That law firm job I got in January that I was so stoked about? Totally bad fit. I wont get into the specifics, but after about a...
OMG, Kate Bornstein is on the cover of the Village Voice this week! She is also reading from her new memoir at Rebel Cupcake on Thursday, May 10th!
A friend of mine got me this in pink once. Adam & Eve has it in black or red for $9.95. Its great because it sticks to itself and if youre not a very good knot person (unlike me, I was a Girl Sc...
I notice how well a good nights sleep treats me the next day. How much self care there is in turning off the internet at a "reasonable hour", whatever that means. For me that means setting my...
I left Salt Lake City at 9AM on Thanksgiving. I didnt realize until the night before that my Thanksgiving day journey was going to be a twelve hour drive. Theres a big difference between ten and twel...
Listening to *BOB* tell her story about freak magnets and how freaks are drawn to each other was very soothing... I have already turned back to this video many times over the last couple of weeks for...
I am struggling today because someone I "knew" on the internet took their life. Mark Aguhar, who I knew as "CallOutQueen."* How did I "know" them? I cruised their blog. I appr...
Along comes my friend Elisabeth, who pitches herself as an organizational top and volunteered to help me sort my new craft area. It was a really incredible process! She was so kind! So many of those ...
This book is an empowerment manual for embodiment. It is a road map to learn how to go into your body and get to know yourself on a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual level. I spend at least 6...
When I was first involved with fat activism and radical queer body positive communities I heard the term "disembodied" thrown around a lot without really understanding what it meant. I unders...
In the last couple of years as Ive learned what is really important to me and learned to let go of what isnt, how to say no to things and how to check in with myself about what I am doing and how I a...
Tomorrow at 3PM Eastern time and whateveroclock your time, I will be joining Golda Poretsky of Body Love Wellness for her Body Love Revolutionaries Telesummit. The topic of the telesummit call I am o...
Hi Pals! It is Validation Day and I tend to write blog posts every year addressing this fact. So lets just keep the tradition alive. I occasionally feel salty about the burst of couple privilege but ...
The experience of learning how to make the bok choy from one of my close friends reminded me of an amazing piece I had read just that very day. I related to it from a very deep level--raised by a sin...
And speaking of Rebel Cupcake, its next week! You should come! all the details are below and on the Rebel Cupcake page. I love Prince a lot and I think the best dance floor action for Rebel Cupcake o...
Oh, sweet readers, it has been a bit since I updated and my very good reason is that I have had so much intense change in this giant tidal wave of awesome. With change often comes a whole mess of wor...
Winter is settling in for her 3-5 month visit to those of us in the Northern Hemisphere, and if youre a snow climate gal like me you want to keep your outerwear as fresh and fly as possible. Its a sm...
There is a new episode of my web series The Lesbian Tea Basket, where I rate and review tea and reclaim tea parties for lesbians. I was heading on my Gay American Road Trip and needed a hostess gift ...
Once on the highway I was still feeling the buzz of the love from Cams house and how nurtured I was feeling. I was enchanted by the expansive rolling beige hills of Colorado and just as I was about t...
The Queer Date-Not-A-Date can be any kind of ambiguous activity a deux planned by you or the other party. Maybe they ask you to hang out and youre not sure if the intention is a date. Maybe you plan ...
This playlist celebrates R&B from the 90s, that golden era of grind* when I first learned how to make-out. I feel that this is the perfect kind of music to get your party going. Its dancey but d...
In the last few days I have felt my life perk up noticeably and I think it was because I let myself settle into the joy of the season. On my own terms and not because a TV show or commercial told me ...
I think wealth has everything to do with your attitude about life and how succulent you live rather than your monetary means. I say yes to opportunities and live on faith (faith it til you make it) a...
It costs $10 to cross Ohio and the bathroom facilities alone are fairly worth it. I was delighted by Indiana--their rest stop had a huge selection of fresh fruit in to-go containers and I got some re...
I am a scattered packer. I am also a procrastinator and while I was very on it in terms of preparing to leave I left packing until the day I left. I eased my anxiety by reminding myself if I needed s...
I had about 17 days to spend on the road―with my next gig in Brooklyn being Rebel Cupcake on December 8th. I did a gas estimate on gasbuddy.com to find out if I could afford the gas―hey estimated $45...
Hi friends! This featured post is brought to you in partnership with Marisota, as an introduction for my International readers. The opinions and language are all mine! I was asked to look through the...
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