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Eat the Damn Cake
www.eatthedamncake.com
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beauty. body image. womanhood. dessert.
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why you should take a class just for fun even in a world with no jobs left

There are all these lists of college subjects you might have foolishly majored in that will eventually lead to your starvation in a gutter. The ten majors that will cause you to starve the fastest! T...

1 day ago 1 person likes this

The things that freak me out when I think about myself in a bikini

(I’m not sure how many times I will have to write about bikinis before I am done. It might be a hundred. It might be more. For that, I’m sorry in advance.) I don’t want to write about bikinis. I want...

5 days ago 1 person likes this

you big softy

Bear snuggled against me, wrapping his arms around me. “I love how soft you are,” he said. This is one of two compliments I get from him on a daily basis. The other is, “I love how ...

6 days ago

win anything you want from eShakti! (a giveaway)

I love giving stuff away. I also like sharing food. I am that person who will always have a sip of your drink when you politely offer, and will always try your dinner, when you so much as hint at it ...

22 may 12

what are the other things you do that make you who you are?

I am a writer now, but when I was a little girl, I thought I would grow up to be a painter. After all, I painted nearly every day. And when I wasn’t painting, I was drawing. Mostly princesses. Someti...

21 may 12 1 person likes this

little victories: the kind of beauty that stands out in a crowd

I like to stand out. I like to be different. Writing the buzz cut piece reminded me. Well, getting the buzz cut reminded me. And then writing about it. For me, everything is two-pronged: the doing an...

17 may 12

i like the person i am without my hair

Bear and I decided to get our hair buzzed together. It was his idea. He went first, and came out looking like summer. Then I sat down in the chair. “Buzz it,” I told the elegant French st...

16 may 12

guy friends: i would like to have them

For the longest time, I have only had one guy friend. And I used to date him, in college. Which complicates things. It makes Bear uncomfortable. It makes me uncomfortable, too. Not the him being my f...

14 may 12

I want a ceasefire in the mommy wars

There it is. (source) The latest in the “mommy wars.” Because everything is a war these days, it seems. Yesterday, we were talking about the “war on obesity.” I even heard tha...

11 may 12 1 person likes this

black women and fat and a photo of a girl wearing someone else’s face

It is not totally rare that I am moved to tears, but this time it was for a good reason. I was standing in a sleek little gallery on the Lower East Side, music beating in the background, as I looked ...

10 may 12

the toe hair story

I was eleven. I was at a slumber party. Remember those? It was for my friend Amy’s birthday. She’d invited a bunch of girls over, and there were going to be games and punch and cookies an...

08 may 12

“you look just like your mom!”

I look a lot like my mom. At least, that’s what everyone says. I don’t really see it. (my dad, mom, one of my brother, and me. I am holding a lot of stuff, for some reason) Classic daught...

07 may 12

sex on the battlefield

This is a guest post from Anna Sansom. We met on Twitter. That happens sometimes, in this crazy new world. I really liked her blog, and I asked her to write this post. This is Anna: Here’s what...

04 may 12 1 person likes this

I took my body for a walk

This piece also appears on HuffPost   I took my body for a walk. It was wearing a long white dress that clung up top and on the butt and then stretched for the ground, slinging itself over the o...

02 may 12

just when it started to feel like home we have to leave

Last year, we moved to Brooklyn. And practically every my-age person in the city said, “Well, yeah, of course you did!” We settled in. But not enough. I know, because last night, Bear and...

01 may 12

You only think the bullies are helpful

A therapist once said a really helpful thing to me. She said, “Even if you stop thinking negatively, you’ll still succeed.” She was talking about my grades, in college. I think it w...

30 apr 12

you should pull it off anyway, even if you can’t pull it off

My best title ever, right? I don’t think I can naturally “pull it off.” I almost never have the things that magazines say you’re supposed to have when you do anything I want t...

27 apr 12

I’m not sure how to be a better sister and no one ever talks about it

There aren’t that many articles about how to work on your relationship with your brother. There are all these articles about making things work with your romantic partner. Are things falling ap...

26 apr 12 1 person likes this

the women who don’t care

I want to be a woman who doesn’t care. One of those women who doesn’t notice. A woman who doesn’t pay attention to girly stuff. To the stuff that women are supposed to care about. I saw Marissa Mayer...

25 apr 12

terrible news: you might have been a loner

Note: To the commenters who recommended “ear planes” to me, when I was sick and traveling last week and my ears were being destroyed by being on a plane, THANK YOU. I found some, in Amste...

23 apr 12 1 person likes this

co-independence

This is a guest post from Fraylie. I love the way she writes, which is why I have her on here so often. Last week, my roommate, Jessica, and I sat in a Union Square coffee shop while donning two newl...

19 apr 12 2 people like this

tired face syndrome

I used to wonder what women meant when they talked about needing beauty sleep and described looking worn and tired in the morning and the evening and while traveling and before putting on makeup and ...

18 apr 12

what’s the matter now, stupid?

This is not how it’s supposed to go. I am supposed to be having a fabulous time. I am supposed to be hiking very close to, if not in, the majestic Alps. But the Alps weren’t interested. They pulled t...

17 apr 12 1 person likes this

nightmare in yoga class

I was late to yoga, and when I walked in, carrying too many things, everyone was already on their mats. Yoga is still really new for me. It still feels awkward and difficult, and I’m still at t...

12 apr 12 3 people like this

Little Victories: how am I not jealous right now?

I have a history of being jealous. It’s not the sort of thing that’s cool to admit. Because jealousy is really petty and everyone knows it. Also, everyone knows it means you’re inse...

11 apr 12

time

I read this piece about time. It was by a girl who has cancer. She writes about her new relationship with time, since her diagnoses, and as she waits for the bone marrow transplant that will either b...

09 apr 12 1 person likes this

where are the forever friends?

I am twenty-six and living in New York City. From everything I’ve heard and read, this means that I should have already acquired some of the closest friends of my life. There are plenty of othe...

05 apr 12 1 person likes this

Bear’s favorite outfit

Earlier, I had worn this very sexy outfit. A short, electric blue dress with leggings and high heeled boots. Big gold hoops. Oh, how I love big gold hoops. I will never have refined taste. But sexy—I...

04 apr 12

don’t tell me to get over it

Bear and I were having a disagreement. I thought he was being ridiculous. I thought he was reacting disproportionately. He was getting so upset over nothing. He was hurt over something that didn̵...

03 apr 12

I don’t want to want to have a baby

This is so incredibly awkward. I just typed a sentence and backspaced it. Typed it again. Backspaced. Now you know I’m on a PC. What is with the Mac not having a backspace key? Does anyone know...

02 apr 12 1 person likes this

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