So darling regulars and HELLO and welcome brand new homies.My regular homies yall know I was talking about a huge thing that my dear Marianne helped set up?IT HAPPENED!Thus my welcome of the new homi...
One of you intrepid readers (I am not quoting because they want to remain Anonymous) did your homework from this entry and now you need to know how I get through those Bad Times.Sometimes people get ...
There is a lot of talk around the internets of the concepts and problems of the whole Love Your Body thing.My view isnt really one I see a lot so here we go.First thing is conceptually the Love Your ...
No more seriousness for a hot minute.How about some beauty talk, pictures and mini reviews.First of all lets talk about how fabulous my hair is right now. Ive mentioned it but I went natural a few ye...
I want to talk about health as a concept and construct the way it tends to be discussed in America.If we pay attention to American media, the health industry (please note I purposefully am not using ...
I have a perspective on body size that I think a lot of us have but dont talk about.I have been more fat than I am now, less fat, "normal" weight, thin and underweight for varying amounts of ...
One of the things that happens to me as a smaller sized fat person is that a large number of the people I run into assume that I am at the mid point of some diet or other.This time of year seems to b...
Ahem.I got a couple of messages after my last post and some people still seem to want to "prove" me wrong and tell me all the ways in which I am not an actual fat person.Look, heres the thing...
A few new commenters have commented on me saying the F word.Yes. Fat.Now here is the thing.There are lots of reasons I use fat the way I do. Lets talk about it.Now there are contexts to being fat and...
Im on a roll this week.First let me show you a crappy picture of my current preferred Springtime Aging Office Goth Look.Okay so basically I am wearing my black Dansko mary janes. Black and red stripe...
I was just cruising Twitter and saw a post by Kambriel (an indie designer I have been a huge fan of for a long ass time) about a comment she made at the magazine Coilhouse.Now for a bit of background...
Im not all the way back yet but lets talk fashion.Can we talk about my aesthetic right now?First keywords.Nazgul.Lets break that down. I want flowing, perhaps tattered, scary, black. I want huge deep...
Before reading this post I need you to go read these posts by me.Where is the Fats.Where it all Intersects and makes a Shannon.E Tu Brute.If you dont want to go read all those let me break it down fo...
Just so yall know I cannot do/engage with anything serious right now.So fashion.We all know Im an indie/alt design lover.I have finally pretty much accepted that I cannot now nor likely will not be a...
Well then.Its been a hell of a few days and I am left shaking my head.My homies, especially my White homies in particular let me tell you. This is the sort of thing I weather no matter what activism ...
Now perhaps I have been especially prescient  ;lately but good goddamn.If you all will recall here just before my birthday I talked about race, racism in FA, and dealing with it.Now Id like y...
There are a lot of things making me hugely insanely angry right now so I dont want to post anything serious for fear of having a total disco breakdown.So, lets talk about monstery, beauty.For referen...
Finally, its here.I am officially 35 mother fucking years old.Can we talk about how I feel about aging?I love the process.I do actually.Not all of it but a lot of it.But lets talk about what Im "...
Oh my darlings.If youve read me for a while you know I am a bonafide beauty junkie.Its been a while since we talked about beauty so lets do that today.As we know I am the fabulous on the cheap queen....
Okay no pre-birthday post today.Instead I want to talk about some other things.My White homies, its going to be one of those days. Gird your loins.A few of you have inquired (very sweetly) why I have...
First my darlings let me show you how I looked most of today:This is the face of a woman who may have had one fuck but has run out. Not. One. Fuck.This is a face that is just getting over an epic out...
With all this talk of learning how to give no fucks about how others feel about you being attractive I have an excellent from my actual life example.Last week while I was on the bus a man whom I wasn...
My darlings, guess what?Im almost officially 35.I also have a plan.As of my 35th birthday I am re-embracing how gloriously trashy I like to look. I am calling it Operation Trashy at 35.It is starting...
All right so yesterday I asked you to think about what would really happen if someone you see on the street thinks youre ugly or unattractive.Now lets make it a thing in our heads.You (or I) hell we ...
SO apparently I took a bit of an unplanned hiatus.I could say that I had nothing to say but that wouldnt be true.Im gonna be honest.As I started my posts about beauty last November, in the ensuing mo...
Okay my darlings I hope youve been ruminating because I have.Weve already covered the fact that none of us will ever be beautiful in the Western Ideal sense of beauty. We talked about questioning tho...
To recap I left you my darlings with some homework before New Years.You have homework my darlings.I want you to think about, process and take in the truth.This is the truth. Neither you nor I will ev...
This entry is dedicated to my dear friend Dennis Cooper and all my fellow dls. Also note readers Dennis blog is for real not work safe today.In the comments the other day I mentioned that I...
The title is a reference to the Color Purple.I want to talk more today about ugliness.Specifically my context for talking about ugliness and my relationship to it.I do not want to or need to reclaim ...
So as Ive mentioned before Im a member at Influenster and this month I got myself a pretty little box with goodies in it.(Note- I did get the product for free to review by Influenster. This did not c...
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