“I believe the best way to examine anything is to go to a dark place. You can’t be a storyteller and a speechwriter at the same time.” — Joss Whedon 1 Making friends with your shadow side could...
I was invited to participate in Productive Flourishing’s ongoing “core conversation” about female empowerment. Which got me thinking about what it means to be ‘empowered’...
You can become someone to be reckoned with by developing your deep interests and fusing them into a Molotov cocktail. You could change the game that way. You can become not only the best at what you ...
1 Your heart is a weapon the size of your fist. Keep fighting. Keep loving. I love this phrase. I saw it on a poster and then looked it up on the ‘Net, which says it originated as graffiti in Palesti...
1 A friend of mine was on a panel with Joyce Carol Oates. My friend is – as I am – a huge fan of JCO, so this was no small thing. My friend was there to discuss ‘self-esteem’; Oates was there to disc...
In an interview with Jonathan Fields, while “sing-songing her way through a longer answer to a question [he’d] posed about her success”, Danielle LaPorte said something intriguing: “I decided t...
because you’re a creative badass because you’re an intellectual outlaw because you’re in the wisdom business because we are what we make because the world is your stomping ground be...
1 I had the chance to go to Chernobyl, so I took it. When people found out about my destination, there came the inevitable jokes – because, you know, nothing is so hilarious as nuclear radioactivity....
1 When Jen Louden invited me to join a group of bloggers riffing about creative joy, I couldn’t help thinking about how we have yet to put creativity — as a value, as a practice –at...
Early in our relationship, when my boyfriend and I still considered ourselves frovers – a cross between friends and lovers, not boyfriend-girlfriend but more than friends with benefits (I was not a &...
1 When I read the “women hate me because I’m beautiful” article by Samantha Brick, I rolled my eyes. I couldn’t help it. Samantha seemed a victim of what I think of as Pretty Girl Syndrome, which inv...
In January 2009, there was an article in the Harvard Business Review called “Women and the Vision Thing” comparing male and female leaders. To the researchers’ admitted surprise, “as a group, women o...
“When a woman tells the truth, she is creating the possibility for more truth around her.” — Adrienne Rich 1 Sometimes you have to surrender. We all get stuck from time to time. If ...
1 So I agreed to write a blog post for a company I respect on a topic that fascinates me. While fitting ideas together and outlining the post, I started thinking Who the hell am I to be writing on th...
1 Many moons ago, I was having a drink with a male friend in New York when I told him this idea I still like to kick around. It’s for a nonfiction book. It would be a personal investigation of ...
1 I met President Clinton last week, at a cocktail party in the presidential suite in an ex-pat hotel in Haiti. Later, I was part of a group that had dinner with him, and the next day a small number ...
There’s nothing you can’t do if you get the habits right. — Charles Duhigg 1 Things fall apart. On the day my ex-husband left a voice mail for my therapist telling her to tell me that he was fi...
1 If you’ve ever been legally deposed, you know it’s a brutal experience. The night before I was deposed for the third time out of five in a case that stretched on – and on – for over two years, I wa...
Art isn’t only a painting. Art is anything that’s creative, passionate, and personal. And great art resonates with the viewer, not only with the creator. What makes someone an artist? I don’t think i...
This morning I asked on Facebook and Twitter: What do smart women know? I distilled the answers into this post. Thank you to everyone who participated*. You are awesome sauce. Smart women know that p...
1 I was skimming an article that claimed how the newly single Demi Moore has been partying with her daughter’s friends and chasing men half her age when I came across a quote from one of her alleged ...
1 So I realized I was coming at my novel from the outside in. I’d created a complex storyworld with a cast of characters and tangled backstory shaping the frontstory. It was like I had the map, but c...
This Blog Crawl of Self-Love is hosted by Molly Mahar of Stratejoy. She believes in the transformational power of radical self-care and so do I. Find out more about The ABC’s of Self Love Blog Crawl ...
Accept that you’ve got the creative urge and it’s never going to go away. Make friends with it. Drink some tequila if you need to. Commit to the process. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Unless of course ...
I used to watch Project Runway (back in the days when I still watched TV) and the judges would talk about whether or not the aspiring designers had a point of view. At the time, I didn’t get it. How ...
Here’s some people who intrigue and inspire me. They might do the same for you. Natasha Wescoat Natasha’s bio describes her as a “self-taught artist who is a force of nature” and I believe it. She’s ...
1 I’m giving a workshop on blogging/social media at the Southern California Writer’s Conference in San Diego in February. I asked people on Facebook if there were particular questions that I should a...
1 I joined Pinterest for one major reason. I am returning to my novel-in-progress THE DECADENTS after a couple months’ break from it and wanted to create a digital visionboard to help drive it to com...
1 “I became my own rebellion,” writes Twyla Tharp in her book THE CREATIVE HABIT, and I have loved that phrase ever since I came across it a handful of years ago. She was talking about her decision t...
White collar conservative flashin’ down the street, pointing that plastic finger at me. They all assume my kind will drop and die, but I’m gonna wave my freak flag high. — Jimi Hend...
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