On g-chat, a friend sends me a link to a YouTube video called, “Can men and women just be friends?” I roll my eyes. I hate that question. It is heteronormative and sexist, and yet I click anyway. The...
The front half of Reverend Jen’s apartment is the “Lower East Side Troll Museum.” Hundreds of them, naked and bejeweled, line the walls. Further inside Jen’s paintings of unicorns, aliens and fairies...
“Latina Glitter”, a story of mine was selected for The Best Sex Writing of 2012. This is the story BEHIND that story. The meta best sex writing of 2012. All photos taken at La Cueva by Edmund X Whit...
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In the world of girl movies, when your protagonist gets new hair or suddenly starts wearing a new color, it’s a sign–the character has changed, cue climax, shit it about to go down. I am ...
All photos by Alicia Vera (and of no one interviewed) I recently became obsessed with stripper blogs. I was staying up late, reading about “musical theater” strippers, female customers who jump on on...
Why isn’t divorce a good thing? When news of any divorce spreads, it is with a certain sadness (even in celebrity marriages, RIP Thurston Moore and Kim Gordon) or sometimes it is with a little smugne...
This weekend is my birthday. Also, I will be on my period during my birthday. But that is not what this post is about. This is about another birthday, my twelfth birthday, when I did not get my perio...
photo cred (note, not the interviewed couple in the photo.) The couple met in L.A. Sebastian, a music producer with long hair and a beard, was immediately taken with Catherine, a brunette musician wi...
photo cred Caitlin, Robert, Yelle, Leandra, Alex and Kyle sleep together in the same tent at Zuccotti Park. “Everyone is romantically, intimately and sexually involved,” says Robert. They are a polya...
Click picture for large (readable) version Hey, did you catch that feature story I wrote for the New York Observer? The one about the future of abortion rights and abortion rights activism in the U....
Dear Rabbit, I am dating a 32 year old virgin, but I dunno about being “his first”. Dear Rabbit, what do you think of the “whats your number” conversation. Is asking how many ...
photo by Giulia Agostini When I was a kid, I thought “sex” was two people peeing on each other. Like, I imagined you got in a bed naked and cuddled for so long that inevitably you would have to pee....
According to EJ Graff, scholar and author of the book What is Marriage For, there are five static reasons people have married throughout time: 1. property, 2. kin 3. money 4. order 5. heart. When I g...
This is a guest post by the notorious Quiet Riot Girl. Remember that review by Lindy West last year, of Sex In The City II? Where she inquired: “What is the lubrication level of Samantha Jones&...
Recently my husband and I went on a double date. We met my friend Kate and her husband Bear, at a German Beer Hall. I hadn’t met Bear, and I always find meeting a friend’s partner interesting. Kate s...
Last weekend I attended the Masculinity, Complex conference at City University of New York, my favorite panel was on Trans Masculinities. Someone that day said “it is funny we talk about trans people...
The last guy bought Tia a car. He also paid rent, bought clothes and gave her thousands of dollars here and there. She was 19 and in school; he was 45 and owned a construction company. “He told me, &...
Remember No Make-up Week? “Yeah, but I don’t wear much….” were my first thoughts last year when I decided I wanted to run the experiment. And I realized I was a little quick to run to the defense of...
photo snapped of Switch n Play I’m out with a pack of drag kings. I’m in the backseat and in front are Billy Burg and Jonathon Bitchman — members of drag-king troupe Switch and Play. We’ve just come ...
It is Saturday night in New York City, just after midnight. While most of Manhattan seems to be walking to and from bars, at Liberty Square hundreds of protesters are in sleeping-bags covered with ta...
My mom and dad started dating in the early ’80s. Dad spent the ’70s driving around Chicago in a black van painted with flames, then went out West with nothing but his motorcycle, friends ...
Marriage has never been one solid thing throughout time– contrary to its “sanctity”. Even the bible was once suspicious of marriage– it was seen as more holy to be celibate an...
Yay! Answering questions about open relationships, making somebody special cum and whether girls like guys who wax their chests… If you’ve got a question or topic for conversation–a...
Bisexual women are seen in popular culture as hot (duuuuude) or just, like, normal. Bisexual men aren’t really considered by popular culture. It seems we would prefer to imagine that they don&#...
photos by Giulia Agostini Some things that are on my Radar, Some things that I’ve been upto: Vote for Isabel!: Feminist-Fashion blogger Isabel is a finalist in the Who Inspires U video contest ...
Groupies aren’t usually seen as a positive force for women — the word has never been associated with feminism. And yet, as the fantasy of “Almost Famous” shows, we are intrigued by this certain “free...
A new documentary (A)sexual has brought the topic to the blogosphere–both Salon and The Rumpus published interviews with David Jay–founder of the Asexual Visibility and Education Networ...
Moshino Fall 2011, Ready to Wear The idea that fashion and feminism are inherently opposed hasn’t died out in the digital wave. Publications like Bitch and Filament have prided themselves on not bein...
Art by Brandi Strickland In alternative spheres, whether it’s a ‘scene’ in music, art or sex there is something that smells a bit… incense-y. Recently, when talking about pol...
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