Stalkers, Intimidators and Abusers



About five or so years ago, back while I was living in Idaho, I was being followed for a while by a stalker. At first it was a bit unnerving but then became more frightening. The man who was stalking me was mentally unbalanced. He would have conversations with imaginary others so I knew he had some form of mental illness, but I did not know how extensive the illness was or how dangerous he could become if provoked in any way.
I told my co~workers about this problem and my stalker was being watched by security guards. At first I didn't want to tell my husband about this stalker because I knew David would just want to keep me safe and locked up. Eventually I had to tell him and David watched for the guy so that he never showed up anywhere near our home.


After a while, my stalker started to back off and I heard that he started stalking someone else. She became frightened as well.
The sad thing is that many take the attitude that until something overt happens, there is not much that can be done about one who stalks. This can have very unfortunate and dangerous consequences.

A short while after I moved away from Idaho, I learned just how frightening ignoring a problem like stalking can become. One day my former stalker became very upset. This time he wasn't content to just watch and follow, he became physically abusive to a couple of women. He flipped out and lashed out. He was arrested and put in jail. Although these women were not badly hurt physically, the emotional wounds from such an attack are very real and very lasting.


Stalking is a form of abuse. It can terrorize it's victim and leave lasting scars. It is also intimidating. A woman who is followed by a larger, stronger man is very intimidated. A million thoughts run through your mind as to how you will defend yourself should he over power you.


The stalker knows he is exerting a power over you and this is thrilling for him.
Never allow yourself to be intimidated by anyone. In the case of this stalker, he was a mentally ill person. Yet many abusers are not mentally ill but emotionally bereft. If anyone is intimidating you or makes verbal or written threats, know your rights. Call the police and report the threat. Violence can and does happen everywhere. You may be reluctant to do so, but you are within your rights to make that call. Let's strive to prevent violence before it is too late.
Big Texas Hugs, Susan and Bentley










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