The Monster In Your Head

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The Hand of A Friend

After hours of careful listening, my therapist offered an image that helped me eventually reclaim my life. “You seem to look upon depression as the hand of an enemy trying to crush you,” he said....

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Shoot the Crow

I have to remind myself that there’s nothing noble about the writer who throws his manuscript into the fireplace or the painter who slashes her work with a razor. “I hate the fucking product,” my...

Dec 2, 2012 Like

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Taking Care of Our Own

Running on Riverside Drive this morning, just next to the park, the wind kept kicking up. I had that exquisite pleasure of my body heating up and the tips of my fingers freezing. Brad Feld’s most...

Nov 1, 2012 Like

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The Sarajevo Effect

A few months back, after a talk I’d given in Warsaw, I was invited to speak in Sarajevo. “There are dozens of entrepreneurs there,” the woman told me as we sipped drinks in the setting sun on a...

Sep 23, 2012 Like

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Taking My Seat

I’m blessed. I’ve been struggling a bit of late and my ability to delve in, dive in and write has been impeded. I wasn’t entirely certain about what was going on but, as the weeks of the summer...

Sep 3, 2012 Like 1 person likes this

The Monster In Your Head

It seems these days I’m always either packing or unpacking. Right now, I’m unpacking. A few hours ago I landed in Istanbul where I’m going to work with the folks at Peak Games. Later this week I’ll...

May 1, 2012 Like

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Sharing the Journey

A few months back, I lamented the lack of scaleability in my business. I used that fact to talk about an effort I was making to branch out more, do more talks and workshops. That effort helped...

Feb 20, 2012 Like

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The Gift of Our Ambivalence

Do I contradict myself? Very well then I contradict myself, (I am large, I contain multitudes.) Walt Whitman, “Song of Myself“ A foolish consistency is the hobgoblin of little minds, adored by...

Feb 12, 2012 Like

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Jerry Happy Birthday

I turned 48 this week. My friends and family helped me feel loved. My 14-year old son Michael, for example, tweeted “Happy Birthday father o’mine.” And a new dear friend sent me a photo from the...

Dec 17, 2011 Like

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“I need a plan.”

I must hear that five times a week. It’s as if we think that the existence of the plan, a set of action steps which we intend to take, will somehow make all of the anxiety go away. “No you don’t,”...

Nov 16, 2011 Like

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Connect. Think. Lead.

Adapted from the forward I wrote to a friend’s new book… Connect. Think. Do. I’d first gotten the call, an inquiry call for coaching, two weeks previous. In a follow-up conversation, one of the...

Nov 13, 2011 Like 1 person likes this

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Startup-proofing Your Relationships

Cover via Amazon Relationships are hard. As Rilke wrote: ”For one person to love another, this is the most difficult of all our tasks.” And perhaps few situations make that task more difficult than...

Oct 1, 2011 Like

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Write to be understood. Speak to be heard. Read to grow.

One of the sweetest parts of being a parent is finding some memento from your kids’ past. My son Michael made this bookmark, probably in fourth grade. The thoughts are from his teacher and referred...

Sep 19, 2011 Like

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What do you need?

Sometimes the most effective tools are the simplest ones. Years ago, Fred Wilson, shared a story that taught me a lot about the role of a CEO. Last year, he wrote a post about the same story: I...

Sep 5, 2011 Like

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Only I will remain

Waking up to the craziness of the markets, to the burning of London, to the insanity of conflating debt with deficit, it helps to remember this bit of wisdom from the Bene Gesserit (and that other...

Aug 9, 2011 Like

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Greetings from Whistler

I don’t believe in coincidences. Earlier this week I had an email conversation with a friend that ended up in discussion about fear (I forget how it began). He saw fear as the opposite of greed; I...

Jul 29, 2011 Like

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I can be a lousy businessman.

I can be a lousy businessman. That’s hard to admit as a coach. I often imagine that one of the many reasons people come to me for coaching is they feel I can help them unlock the secret of building...

Jul 21, 2011 Like

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One Small Step

Image via Wikipedia I’m pretty sure it was a Philco. I know I was five and half. It’d been a typically hot summer day where my best friend Marcus had spent much of it carving our initials in the...

Jul 17, 2011 Like

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Work-Life Balance is Bullshit

I spat out the words with an anger that surprised me: “Work-Life balance is bullshit.” Ann Mehl and I were on a call with a reporter looking into doing a piece about the workshop we’re doing in a...

May 5, 2011 Like

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Born Somewhere Else

Caren Maio had an iced coffee and, despite what it does to my stomach, I had a mocha: French Roast on 85th and Broadway on a beautiful Sunday afternoon. Days after she’d walked out on the stage at...

Apr 19, 2011 Like

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Validating Dreams

Travel hint: When the friendly lady from Slovenia’s Adria Airways tells you that, upon arriving at Frankfurt Airport from your flight from Ljubljana, you need to re-check in at a Lufthansa Service...

Apr 10, 2011 Like

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The Waiting Game

I want to apologize to all the people in my life whom I’ve made wait for an answer. Yet another client has just left my office. Yet another client whom I’ve sat with, listened to, counseled, and...

Feb 25, 2011 Like

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Where do you live?

The blue-jacketed border patrol agent is bored and more than a little sleepy as he flipped open my passport. Tired, just off a flight from Beijing, I look blankly at him. And I smell awful. “I...

Feb 22, 2011 Like

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Would you change?

In Change, Tracy Chapman sings: If you knew that you would die today, Saw the face of God and love, Would you change? Would you change? Would you? That question’s been stuck in my head for the last...

Feb 18, 2011 Like

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Panting is Not a Strategy

I remember years ago, when I worked for CMP and had first one and then two kids in the company’s daycare center. I remember leaving whatever I was doing—even if we at the magazine where I worked...

Nov 2, 2010 Like

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How I Spent my Summer Vacation, Part Three

And here’s the last update I sent around to friends, family, and donors. As many of you have noted, privately and otherwise, it was a transformative experience for me. Indeed, some folks have asked...

Sep 25, 2010 Like

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How I Spent My Summer Vacation, Part Two

Continuing the journey to Yushu…more excerpts from the updates I sent two weeks ago. Following the except, I’ve got some “video” slideshows. They may be a bit long but I think they’re quite...

Sep 23, 2010 Like

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How I Spent My Summer Vacation, Part One.

I’m back in the States. This trip, this effort to bring some relief to the people of Yushu, Qinghai, China, has been life-changing. The other day, one day back, I was doing a boxing session when my...

Sep 20, 2010 Like

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Separated from my anxieties.

Hello from Chengdu…I’m safe and happy. The flight (on August 30) to Beijing was long and uneventful and the night there was fine. I landed late in the evening of the 31st and on the 1st made my way...

Sep 2, 2010 Like

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“I’m leaving…on a jet plane…”

Leaving in a few hours for the airport. Flights to Chicago, then Beijing and, later, onto Yushu. Thanks to all for the love and support (and the donations!). This trip, this work– providing relief...

Aug 30, 2010 Like

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The Monster In Your Head

The Hand of A Friend

Shoot the Crow

Taking Care of Our Own

The Sarajevo Effect

Taking My Seat

Mind Your Elders

Sharing the Journey

The Gift of Our Ambivalence

Jerry Happy Birthday

“I need a plan.”

Connect. Think. Lead.

Startup-proofing Your Relationships

Write to be understood. Speak to be heard. Read to grow.

What do you need?

Only I will remain

Greetings from Whistler

I can be a lousy businessman.

One Small Step

Work-Life Balance is Bullshit

Born Somewhere Else

Validating Dreams

The Waiting Game

Where do you live?

Would you change?

Panting is Not a Strategy

How I Spent my Summer Vacation, Part Three

How I Spent My Summer Vacation, Part Two

How I Spent My Summer Vacation, Part One.

Separated from my anxieties.

“I’m leaving…on a jet plane…”

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