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Today, we are joined by a guest author. Mary is here to share with us how to talk with your kids when the media’s values are not your own. I know many of us can relate to this situation and appreciate Mary’s insight.
Author: Mary Kremer
When I was a kid, my mother would frequently boycott businesses or products with overly sexualized commercials. Anything from fast food joints to hair products were out of the question for our family if the commercial relied on sex to sell the product. Though we as kids sometimes teased our mom for being a prude, I realize now that these were her attempts to counteract the negative effects of the media and to help us determine our values.
With the incredible access children now have to the internet, to social media, to television, to magazines, and even billboards, it can be frightening for a parent when the media’s message isn’t in line with their personal values. Luckily, you as a parent are still the most influential person in your child’s life. Here are some tips to help you navigate unwholesome media messages and help your child create strong, positive values.
Talk About the Issues
Children are exposed to sex, violence, and drug use in the media at younger and younger ages. To help negate the negative effects this might have on your children, talk with them about these issues often and freely. As soon as you see something you disagree with on the TV, in a magazine, or on a website your child is exposed to, use it as an opportunity to talk with your child about why it is you disagree with that message.
…When it Comes to Sex
If you believe sex needs to be associated with commitment, for example, talk with your children about how important it is to respect their bodies and the bodies of others. Here are some tips to keep in mind:
…Or Violence & Drug Use
When it comes to drug use and violence, the approach is exactly the same. Talk with your children early on about how violence and drug use are portrayed in the media, and how that is not in line with what you believe. Keep these tips in mind:
Limit Their Exposure & Provide Positive Alternatives
You certainly will not be able to keep every negative aspect of the media out of your children’s lives, but you can control what goes on in your own home. Be sure to:
Set a Good Example
Simply telling a child to adhere to a set of values is not enough. If you behave differently than you expect your children to behave, they’ll learn what you really value, no matter what you teach. Make sure to:
Stay Involved
Numerous studies done by the Kaiser Family Foundation and other media watch groups have reported that parents who are involved in their children’s lives, who minimize their children’s exposure to the media, and who are willing to talk openly with their children about what they are exposed to in the media, are able to minimize the negative effects of violence, sex, and drug abuse that is often portrayed.
Simply put, if you are more active in your child’s life than the television, you have greater influence. Though I may have teased my mom about her prudish attitudes, I ended up adopting a lot of her values (and I still don’t go to some of those chain restaurants). You can have the same effect on your children.
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