DO YOU SPY ON YOUR PARTNER?

this topic came up recently when a friend of mine said her guy always checks her phone. she thought this was totally normal and a few of us were like “ummm, NO IT’S NOT” in response. now, spying on your partner’s email or phone is not something you necessarily want to admit…

but tell me anyways, would ya? do you spy? have you “accidentally” scrolled through your dude’s text messages? “just happened” to sign in to his email and glanced around? if i was being honest, i would say of course. i think most girls have. (right??) different partners in my past gave me good reason to (i thought) and that’s actually how i found out about cheating going on (ohhh, high school). in the more healthy relationships that i’ve been in, i didn’t really ever feel the need to spy. maybe there was a time when his email was up on the screen and i took a quick look (and was entirely bored with what i saw and didn’t pursue it any further). looking back, it was a real sign the relationship was headed to splitsville when i felt the urge to spy.

some girls have told me they would let their partner read anything on their phone and email. and others keep that password screen on for a reason. for me, i wouldn’t want my guy snooping through my phone without me knowing it. what if i had texted my friends about him? i think that’s our own personal space. if someone was suspicious of me, sure. but not just because they felt entitled to it.

i think relationships still need privacy. sure, you share a lot but you don’t need to share everything. if you respect and love the other person, maintaining some sort of individuality is nice in a relationship where sometimes you can feel like you’re morphing into the same person. what do you think? do you share all or are somethings off limits?

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