The Female Circle

Did you know that you are a member of one of the largest, outrageously cool, divinely feminine, and nurturing groups on this planet?

I kid you not. You've had exclusive membership and V.I.P status since you were born. That was your initiation into the group. Being born.

You were born female, a goddess, and a Queen.

We all were. Every single three point five billion one of us who belong to this group. We are all one. We have all been graciously blessed with the same genetic make up. We have the miraculous ability of wielding the power to nurture and create whilst being a beautiful creation ourselves. We are not only the agent of all creation, but we are the agents of all change too.
As a History graduate and teacher, I am always moved by the plight of women throughout the ages. I often find myself gravitating towards the stories of heroic acts carried out by women.When we consider the walls that they have broken down, the hurdles that they have overcome, and the sheer courage and bravery that they have demonstrated, it makes we wonder why we sometimes chose to play small.

There has never been a more empowering time in history for a woman to step into her divine, feminine, and creative power. Now has never been a better time for women to walk in their own beauty, trailing a blaze by revealing in our power, and having the freedom to indulge in our own weaknesses. I adore this quote by Vinita Dawra Nangia on being a woman.

She is admired for being strong and loved for being frail and helpless: she can rave and rant when crazed with anger, and the next minute melt into a puddle of helpless love. She can enjoy her many moods and feminine aspects without having to abide by adages or the need to be strong all the time. A woman's intuitive understanding of life and relationships, and her role as the great bonding factor in a family are unique strengths that she does not share with the opposite sex. The depths of passion in her eyes, the wealth of caring in her heart, the power of resilience, of survival are all qualities a woman enjoys, growing more beautiful and understanding with the years.

There is so much power and beauty in being feminine that I can never understand why in today's society we are stuck in the 'Queen Bee' syndrome. We squabble and try to climb over each other to get ahead and covet that much sought after position - the best business woman, the best mother, the best wife and partner - the ultimate Queen Bee. This mentality leads to feelings of lack, envy, resentment, jealousy, anger, frustration, and sadly, judgement among women. Instead of raising each other up higher, we have become hell bent on tearing each other down.

The truth is we - yes, us women - have created rumours that there isn't enough to go around, there is a scarcity of 'good' men, and that we can't have it all. We attack one another, blame each other, and project our own fears onto other women. When we see another woman with something that we want - a career, education, health, partner, family, money - we coward away instead of stepping up and asking questions, taking notes, and asking to be helped and guided towards a life that we desire for ourselves.

As women we are not born with instruction manuals. We find our guidance and GPS soul directions in other women. After all, no one else can understand us better than another woman.

Channelling our inner female energy for a greater good other than our own lifts and liberates other women to do the same. The truth is, we all want to fit in with each other. We all want to be love and accepted by our peers.

Here are my Positivity Pimp tips for creating a more empowering sisterhood -

Ask does she need help
At one time or another we're going to need help. Whether it's an impending work deadline, a child throwing a tantrum, heartache or grieving, we all need extra pillars to hold us up throughout our lives. Hold the door open for another woman. Give way to her in traffic. Offer to carry something. Help with the photocopying or offer her your expertise. What you give you will receive.

Compliment
How many of us have concentrated on our appearances not for ourselves or our partners, but solely for other women? How many times have we spent those extra couple of minutes on our makeup, hairstyle, and outfit? If you see a woman who's made an effort, genuinely compliment her. Tell her she looks beautiful. It makes you beautiful too.

Be a good role model
Woman are like sponges. We feed off other woman, we take our cues and set our standards. Think of times when you might be projecting a negative view of yourself onto other women. Do you constantly critique your figure? Do you put yourself and your efforts down? Do you put other women down? Do you lead by example? This is hugely important, especially to young women in our lives. It is our job to build a strong, and self-loving generation of women. Give love to yourself and other women. Be the change and pass the torch.

Support
More so than ever before women are being recognised as forces in the business sphere. Our multiple talents and contributions are being acknowledged, but there are still women knocking on unanswered doors. Now is the time for you to change that. Just because you may have struggled to break down doors doesn't mean it has to be the same for everyone else. Can you offer some of your time to mentoring and guiding other ladies in your industry. Share your advice and tips. Your life will be abundantly blessed. Remember, there is more than enough of everything to go around.

Ditch the judgement
This one pains my heart. We need to get off each others cases, seriously. There are going to be times when we won't agree or like something that another woman does. And that is perfectly OK. We don't have to like them, but we should respect them. I think a big example of this is when we judge women for choosing careers over families, or families over careers. We've told ourselves that we can't have it all. But maybe we can. Things change, and people change. We must allow them the respect to make choices based on their needs and wants. One size does not fit all. Ditch the judgement, and embrace the possibility that there are other ways.

Don't compare your magnificence
This is something I'm hugely passionate about. In fact, I posted about it here too. We are all unique. We all have an abundance of skills, talents, and abilities that this world needs. You are more than capable of creating your own niche. Your footprints will leave their own mark on this world. Comparing yourself to other women will kill your passion and drive. Don't compare yourself to ex-girlfriends, colleagues, friends, or family. You are you, and no body else can be you. Step up and claim your magnificence with dignity and grace. You wholeheartedly deserve it.

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If you too would like to join me on this crusade to help, love, and support other women I'd love to hear from you. Do you have any suggestions on how we can turn the tide? Are you already implementing similar changes in your life? I'd love to hear about it!
Maybe you could share this post on Facebook or Twitter? Let's create the Ultimate Female Circle for powerful women. The more the merrier! Everyone's invited!

Jenn xx