Girls are Complicated

I’ve always been the type of girl who had more guy friends than girl friends.

I’m not really sure why to be honest. I often like to blame my older brother. You know, because I was always trying to hang out with him and his guy friends so I prayed every evening that God would instantly transform me into a boy (like Pinocchio without the nose and wooden body). I just wanted to be a real boy!

But alas…I was apparently way too far down God’s to-do list because I continuously awoke to find, much to my dismay, that I was indeed still a girl. I even cut my own hair into a boy’s crew cut when I was young. I know…#earlysignsofmentalproblems But I was determined that if I did all the right things, I could make my dream come true.

In high school, I started to embrace being a girl. But not in the traditional fashion blogger “O-M-G I lurrrrve your shoes!” kind of way. But more in the, “Huh…I like being a girl. I like dresses and makeup is actually kind of fun. Okay, so this might just work.”

But I still had my guy friends as my gang. Why? Well, I’m glad you asked! Here we go:

– If something is bothering them, they say so. We talk about it and move the heck on with life.

– If I make an inappropriate joke (which happens all the time from time to time) they don’t fake laugh and then talk about me behind my back. They either belly laugh (cause it was a damn good joke) or they tell me I’m lame and we all laugh cause it’s true.

– I don’t have to evaluate the relationship. It just exists.

Now don’t get me wrong! I have some of the best dang girlfriends in the entire freakin’ world. The women in my life are amazing…they are strong confident hilarious women who I’m so fortunate to have in my life. They make me a better wife, mom, human being…

BUT sometimes we make those girlfriends who are perhaps a little more high maintenance. You know, the ones who are SO much fun to hang out with and you connect on an emotional level, yet from time to time you get a glimpse of something “different” and you question your friendship.

Um, Marion? What’s Your Point?

Well, lately I’ve been thinking about a girlfriend I had that is no longer in my life. She didn’t like my fiancé (my now husband) and made it clear to me that she didn’t approve (she was a partier and my future husband was/is anything but). We had one conversation about it and since that day several years ago, we haven’t spoken. And this was someone who I considered to be one of my best friends…just gone. Poof.

So from time to time I think of her and I feel sad. Truth is, I miss her. But I am very careful about the type of energy I allow into my inner circle and I know it’s for the best. But it makes me wonder…have other women had similar “falling outs” with girlfriends? If so, did you ever reconcile? Or did you just leave it alone?

xo – Marion

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