Baring It All

Kay.

So I may or may not be kiiiiind-of dating this guy.

I find him handsome, smart, kind, important, hilarious, intimidatingly well-dressed and I hate to say this about men of color, but, articulate.

Here’s the thing.

He’s a little different than what I’m used to. His outfits for trips to get my coffee are put together just so. Even when he throws on sweatpants and Timbs, it looks intentional, and something Vogue (though, appropriation, much?) would deem en vogue. When he goes to work, it’s in a well-tailored suit. Shoot, he tailors his t-shirts. And customizes his flight jackets.

He likes fashion. I want him to have a style blog. I think he would benefit from having a place to catalog his looks, if only to show off the pieces he customizes.

Maybe it’s because of how put together he looks that he could be perceived as not liking women.

He said this is something that he’s been dealing with forever. He worked retail jobs to put himself through school while he earned his Bachelors and Masters. He isn’t married, he doesn’t have any kids and he’s of a certain age.

It isn’t fair that black men aren’t allowed to be outside the perceived box of masculinity (inside that same box, they’re big, black and scary. Like a demon, go figure). And that isn’t to say that he’s not masculine because he likes fashion. Without putting him on blast, he has very manly habits –a few I could do without but we can work on that.

I just like to think we speak the same language: clothing.

Wearing: Zara Coat// J.Crew Lambskin Zip Sweater (on sale!)// J.Crew Factory Denim Tuxedo Shirt// J.Crew Sequin Mini Skirt// J.Crew D’Orsay Pumps// J.Crew Necklace// Chanel Bag

But best believe I’m going to write it all.

Oh, and congrats AshB! You won the Beyond the Lights tickets!

p.s. It’s hard not to feel good about life when you’re kicking around leaves like a little kid.

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