The Divorce Diamond

I was never bothered that much about rings until I was engaged. I’m one of those people who needs to become an expert on everything they do – see Paleo for example ;) – so my engagement ring turned me into a diamond aficionado. I knew about the three c’s: Cut, Clarity and Carat, and to this day I love ogling a good engagement ring.

Which is why I think it’s a shame to have my old engagement ring in a drawer in my bedroom, collecting dust. It’s a beautiful ring, a one carat diamond on a platinum band, and I’d always planned to keep it for Elfie at some point in the future. But I’ve been thinking, as my divorce was such a happy one, why not turn it into a lovely piece of jewellery that will mean something to both her and I? The diamond in the ring represents nothing negative but the union that led to the creation of my two beautiful children, though it may be over now. In my eyes that isn’t something to be hidden away but is something to be thankful for.

I want to take inspiration from a ring that was passed to me from my ex-Mother in Law when Elfie was born, one that she was given when my ex-husband was born. This ring is full of diamonds and rubies, which also happens to be mine and Elfie’s birthstone. On a gold band, I want my engagement diamond to be surrounded by a ring of little rubies, a bit like this lovely example from Trumpet & Horn. And then when Elfie is old enough not to lose things (and I have a few more years of collecting lovely jewellery behind me ;) she can have the ring to symbolise her own engagement, or maybe just as a beautiful reminder of where she came from.

When we first split I did consider the symbolism of selling it on, severing all ties to the old ring by contacting a diamond buyer.

I asked this question earlier on in the week on my Instagram feed and loved hearing people’s opinions: what did you/would you do with your old engagement ring if you’d had a happy divorce?

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