Do I want another baby? (Guest Post)

After a holiday break, I'm glad to publish another guest post in my Adventures in Parenting series, where I invite other bloggers to share their unique perspective and experiences in parenting.

Today's guest writer is Jhanis of The Vanilla Housewife, a blogger with an awesome sense of humour! She writes about life as a working parent to two children, and recipes from her Third World Kitchen. Somewhere in her humour, you will find the truth about what parenting is really about. A good case in point is this lovely post she's written for Sand In My Toes - on whether she should have another baby. Or not? Do you have these thoughts too?

Sometimes I wonder - WHAT IF we have another baby? A part of me feels giddy about the idea. Buying baby stuff, teddy bears, the smell of a new baby cot, and oh so cute baby booties! Makes it sound so delightful! I remember I was shopping for a christening gown for my baby girl with my mom and we found this long peasant dress that looked absolutely perfect. Then my mom started to cry. Who in the world cries while shopping for a dress?!

"This is so perfect, she will look beautiful in it! I can't believe I'm a grandma to such a beautiful thing!"

"Uhmmm okay mother, stop that, this is embarrassing," I replied while wiping my own tears away. WTH?

Motherhood truly stirs up a lot of emotions you never knew existed until the baby comes along.
Sure, there are flat out I-don't-want-to-do-this-anymore kind of feelings but they are usually swallowed up by the Awwww-She's-so-cute-and-I-made-her kind of emotions, especially when you witness their first smile, first step, the first time they say ‘Mommy’ and everything seems right in the world again.

Yeaaaah... I think I want another baby.

BUT! There is also this nagging voice asking me if I really want to go through everything again.
The morning sickness, the puking, the bed rest, and what if there are complications again? Can I go through another Cesarean section without kicking the anesthesiologist?

Troubled by my thoughts, I turn to my husband.

"Do you want another baby?"

"Uhmmmm... Noooo..... I think?"

"Wrong answer."

"What? Do you want another baby?"

"Yess... No..."

"See? You're not even sure if you want another one!"

"But you are supposed to say OF COURSE I WANT ANOTHER BABY!"

"But do you want us to have another one?"

"NO! But that is beside the point!"

"Yes! I would love to have another baby."

"Really?!"

"Yes, I'd love to have a million babies with you."

"Awww you are so sweet!! But I don't think I want another baby right now."

Makes you wonder why my husband has not gone crazy yet.

Welcome to marriage.

The other day, I saw a really adorable baby while I was commuting to work. So cute, my uterus started to quiver with excitement. And she was staring at me the entire time! Like REALLY STARING AT ME! This is it. This is the sign that I was looking for! We are meant to have another baby!

I smiled at her to make her laugh and I was delighted when she gave me the sweetest giggle.

Then BOOM. Projectile puke.

I'm so done having babies.

Jhanis V. is specialized in third world kitchen recipes (according to her), housewife drama, and all things funny. Her writings have been featured on the FemaleNetwork, BlogHer and Erma Bombeck Writers’ Workshop. You can find her on her blog: The Vanilla Housewife, on Facebook and on Twitter.




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