Determine What You Can Handle While Dating

Not every person is the right person for you. We all have different types of people that we would like to date. For example, I love mentally strong women who are willing to share their opinions. I rather the person I date speak their mind than engage in passive aggressive behavior to make their point. This doesn’t mean I want to be with some sort of dominatrix, or a military hard ass. My woman has to have some sass to her, and not easily offended by my off color jokes.

Even before returning to the dating scene, it took me several years to determine the qualities I sought in a woman. It’s a process that I underwent thru many trail and error. Dating isn’t a sure fire process, a part of dating is understanding what you can and are willing to deal with in another person. At one point in my life, I thought wanted very submissive women. When one fell into my lap, I didn’t know what to do. I got what I wished for, but we weren’t very compatible.

Trail and error is the best way to determine if what you’re seeking is actually best for you. If things do not flourish, take it as a sign that you may be seeking the wrong qualities. A honest assessment will reveal much of the qualities that work, and the qualities that aren’t preferred. Try asking, “What were the things I enjoyed about this person?” and “what were the things I did not like about them?” If you rattle a list of physical and superficial items (such as having a certain job or dress), you’re really not looking deep enough.

As you explore these qualities and what you can, and cannot handle, don’t make the same mistakes. Chasing the same person repeatedly doesn’t help you find the right person. You’re not exposing yourself to the other potentials that exist.