Couple, separation or divorce sometimes necessary, autopsy of the breakups that are necessary

Separation has become commonplace and anyone can feel victimized or guilty at any time in their life.

More than a third of marriages end in divorce, almost one in two in large metropolitan areas. In France, there are around 300,000 separations per year, all types of union combined, so hundreds of couples separate each day in our country skal vi skilles .

What is the secret of households that last over time? Is there a magic recipe to stay the course? The answer is unfortunately no but you guessed it, right?

skilles eller ej It would be utopian to imagine creating a method of long-term preservation of the couple that would suit everyone. On the other hand, it is unfortunate that many love stories end for the wrong reasons or with failed acts that we sometimes regret for a very long time.

Continuous blame, your spouse does not respect you.

It happens in many couples that one of the partners has some form of control over the other and that he uses it to weaken and demean him continuously.

Under the guise of humor or because it has always been so, some spouses allow themselves to discredit or even humiliate the other permanently skilsmisse eller ej .

At the beginning of the story, love is passion and we do not necessarily realize this type of derogatory behavior, we accept until it becomes intolerable. The persecutor usually does not understand what suddenly disturbs the other when it has always been like that. What was acceptable at the outset may turn out to be unacceptable over time or may grow over time.

Enduring the personality of a partner who keeps putting you down is unthinkable over time.

Some couples maintain a conflictual relationship which corresponds to their personalities and we all have, in our entourage, relatives who do not cease to "titillate" or to argue frankly. It is important to differentiate this scenario from that where one of the spouses is in pain in relation to a relational mode that does not suit him or no longer min mand truer med skilsmisse.

Often, this type of situation will require the intervention of a professional and this implies an awareness on the part of the one who makes the other suffer and who will have to radically change his way of being if he wants his relationship to last. .

The testimony of Matthew is explicit about this:

“I was instrumentalized for 8 years before I hit rock bottom and react. Now I have been separated for almost 6 months and everything is better, I am rebuilding myself, I am happy and even though I still resent my ex, I will forgive him in time.

I met my daughter's mother at my parents' neighbors. At the time, I was very shy and discreet, the complete opposite of her. The first year in our history everything was going well, she gave me confidence, her self-confidence was an example for me and I was very proud that such a woman chose me. After our marriage and the birth of our daughter, everything changed quickly min mand vil skilles.

My wife was getting more and more demanding, I never felt up to it, she laughed at me constantly; everything was subject to laugh at me but not with me. She could call her mother or her sisters several times a day to talk about how bad or incapable I was. I remember a time when she sent me to get diapers for the little one, I was wrong in the size and after having bluntly taunted me, she had told her version of the case (where I passed for a profound moron) to a table of 40 people the following weekend and whenever possible for weeks. Everything was a pretext to denigrate me and if I had the misfortune to say "stop, that's enough", I became poor "Calimero" susceptible and incapable of showing self-mockery min kone vil skilles.