TFC: How does it feel to be married?
Since getting married last September, there is one question that I continue to be asked:
How does it feel to be married?
My answer:
The more I think about this answer however, the more I can see it being misunderstood. What I mean is that our lives didn’t suddenly drastically change after we became husband and wife. We didn’t move in together, we didn’t buy a house, we didn’t start planning to have kids, we didn’t decide on where we would “set down roots”. We just went back to exactly how our lives were before: happy and crazy in love.
I will admit however, that every time I have to use the phrase “my husband”, I do feel a sense of change in our relationship. When I knew he had become the most important person in my life, calling him “my boyfriend” just didn’t seem special enough. Having him as my husband makes it feel easier to make plans without any sense of doubt, and it eliminates the use of words such as ‘if’ and ‘maybe’.
Another difference that occurred once we were married was the process of changing my name. There was no discussion on whether I would do it or not. I am not the most traditional person, nor am I a feminist, but changing my last name had nothing to do with these things. Although I’m still getting used to being a ‘See’, let alone a ‘Mrs’, I wanted to change my last name because of how proud I feel to be his wife. Being in a profession where your last name is constantly broadcasted on the front of your chest, wearing my bib number has recently felt like a much bigger deal now that I am married and the feeling I have when I pin on my bib number is pride.
It’s a well-known phrase that the first year of marriage is hard. I have no idea what this means. Wouldn’t the first year of marriage be total bliss? Who started this ridiculous statement and what could they possibly be talking about? I know I am only in my 5 month of marriage, but I don’t see much changing in the next 7 months. I guess we will just have to see how my monthly blog posts unfold…
So I’ve now decided, the next time someone asks me what it feels like to be married, my answer will be easy:
It feels great.
-Heidi / @heidi_see28 @boho_kitty
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