With church in the morning, my Sunday afternoons are usually quiet, leisurely, and restful. They are the perfect time to think about my ancestors. Today I'm envisioning a visit with my great-great-grandmother Rebecca (Smith) Bartley. I know her birth date (1820), marriage date (to Dixon Bartley in 1836/38), and death date (December 1899), and
where she and Dixon lived. I also know that there was a very large
golden wedding anniversary party for her and Dixon in July, 1888. But I know little else about her. Nothing of her appearance, her personality, education, beliefs, nor, especially, the essence of her: who she was/is.
If I could visit with Grandmother Bartley, I hope the conversation would cross boundaries of times and interests. I would ask her about her childhood: her interests, activities, chores, hobbies. I would want to know whether she attended school and about the things she learned from her mother. I hope we would talk about courtship and marriage, and becoming a wife, household management, and her daily schedule -- how she arranged the necessities of her days. I would like to hear about her becoming a mother, and her thoughts on raising children. (How did she manage diapering, infant cleanliness, and keeping children away from hot stoves and fires?) I would especially like to learn about any handwork she might have done: sewing clothes, knitting, crocheting, quilting. Did she spin her own wool? I hope we could touch on her religious beliefs. Rebecca was a married lady during the Civil War living in a Union state. I would like to know about that experience. I would also like to hear details about their golden wedding anniversary celebration. And so much more.
If I knew I would have an opportunity to chat with Rebecca for an hour, I would make a list of questions and add to it until the moment of our visit. And, of course, as we visited I'm sure more questions would come to mind. I think the visit would last longer than an hour. (I'm imagining an older Rebecca with time on her hands to sit and talk for a good long while.)
If
you could chat with an ancestor for an hour, who would it be and what questions would you have?
--Nancy.
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